From perfectly content to miserable: when moods change at the flip of a switch

There’s an expression in German I’ve heard my aunt use from time to time:

“Wie angeworfen.”

It means “like it was tossed at me”.

There are several occasions where this expression can be used; most often however it references two things:

1. An illness (like one minute you’re healthy and all is fine and the next minute you’re suffering fever chills, a headache and a sore throat)

2. A bad mood (one minute you’re fine the next minute you want to kill everyone who dares to glance in your direction)

I was fine all day. My daughter and I had a nice visit in my hometown with my parents, and stopped at a nursery on the way home to pick up a few house plants. They didn’t have the one she was looking for (called string of pearls), something to do with the hurricanes last year that destroyed a lot of the tropical plants that make it up here to southern Canada, but we found several others we loved.

All was fine.

Then I checked traffic on my app. Highway was backed up due to a collision in the centre lane, so we took the lake shore road instead. It’s a pleasant drive, usually, but at one point we were standing, barely moving, for way longer than was endurable.

I glanced at the GPS even though I know the neighbourhood areas well, and thought I’ll risk the residential streets just north of our current street.

Which was fine and dandy until the road stopped at a dead end and the only way to get past (east) of there was to either go north (away from our original lake shore) or south (back into the traffic jam).

Long story short: I could now qualify to be a tour guide for the south western part of suburban Mississauga.Β  Y’all wanna come up here for a tour?

Lordy.

We drove through shabby parts of town only to find ourselves in a hoity toity neighbourhood the next minute. There were ugly apartment buildings and huge mansions on large, treed properties with gate houses. There were parks and schools, shops and churches, then a run down area with junk yards and auto repair places, a park with a creek and another stretch of mansions.

Plus, unlike the city of Toronto where 98% of all streets are either north/south or east/west, there were diagonal roads, turns, loops and god knows what else in every direction but east, which is where I wanted to go.

On and on it went until I finally saw a sign for a major artery I recognized.

My poor daughter. She just wanted to get home. She spent 5 hours in the car yesterday driving home from the camping trip. Normally,Β  it only takes about 30 minutes to drive to my parents’ place. Add in a bit of construction or traffic, and you should still do the trip under an hour.

It took a freaking two hours to get home.

My mood was not pleasant by then.

Wie angeworfen.

I can suddenly understand the desire to want to move out of the city, like my partner complains about when he struggles with his work commutes.

So after we got home I admit, I was a little snarky. They eventually left for baseball playoffs, but my girl child wanted to stay home and plug into a movie. I don’t blame her.

Slowly, my mood is improving. Certainly, typing a blog post, and glancing at our new plants is helpful to me.

Maybe I’ll head out into the garden and watch the monarchs flutter around.

How do you manage a suddenly emerging bad mood? Do you nurse it and isolate yourself or do you thrash around yelling at people?

It takes all kinds of effort to manage this emotion, doesn’t it. πŸ™‚

 

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19 thoughts on “From perfectly content to miserable: when moods change at the flip of a switch

  1. Claudette, bless you! I sometime feel guilty for my bad moods because my kids are usually on the receiving end of them, and yet when my mood has passed, they still love me like I’m the best thing in the entire world. I wish I had a garden to help center my mood as you do, but cleaning, writing, or listening to music are my best mood stabalizers.

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  2. When one of those sudden, hideous moods hits, my first impulse is to eat. But lately I’ve discovered a better solution that sometimes works for me. I immediately try to think about what I’m grateful for. I turn the misery around into gratefulness about something related to the experience. It helps.

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  3. It sounds like most cities or suburbs even and when you get lost, you hope you have the GPS. Most of us do and we are grateful for that.
    I don’t worry about brief periods of moodiness but I am always more concerned when I freeze inside and can’t move on spending too much time rehashing the internet or moping. I have learned to control it better.

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  4. Two thoughts at least you saw parts of a city you hadn’t seen before, secondly I don’t live in the City (Oxford UK) I live in a Cotswold town on the outskirts, all very rural and peaceful BUT I have to commute to Oxford for my job and all I can say is the journey can be a living nightmare!

    Hmm Interestingly you have me wondering City? Or a town in the country? And do you know I still cannot choose which I’d prefer living in.

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    • I’m leaning city (for now). My neighbourhood is 25 min from downtown Toronto (at 2 am in August during lull of traffic gridlock), same to the country’s biggest airport, and as I said, my parents’ place. Also I walk kids and dogs to the beaches of Lake Ontario…perfect little ‘country-ish’ spot in the big city. If we don’t drive much or far, it’s great. I don’t need a car, I have access to most things I need on foot but….homeownership, and kits in sports require two cars, and so does his work.

      Doesn’t mean we won’t move, I just have a feeling it won’t be until the minions fly off.

      We’ll see.

      And certainly, there are some new spots I discovered not far from where we live I didn’t know about. Those mansions with gate houses? No idea!

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  5. I hear ya! I think my daily meditation is helping me have more perspective on things and stopping me from getting really frustrated and angry at things that are out of my control (both big things and little things)….someone once told me you can control how you react to things but you cannot control things that are out of your control…easy to say…tough to practice…but I’m trying…

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