You’re the only mom who doesn’t allow…

This is an actual statement that was made to me this past week:

You’re the only mom who doesn’t allow video games during the school week.

Honestly, I find this hard to believe.

Then again, maybe not…?

I happen to know of at least one other mom in my ‘hood who doesn’t allow video games when the kids get home from school. Plus, she restricts the time on the weekends. Two hour limit, is what I’m hearing…

For us, it’s like this:

No video games on Xbox or tablets at all during the school week.

During weekends however, those are allowed.

We haven’t had to regulate time much, mainly due to both Saturdays and Sundays being heavily scheduled with their sports. It’s not unusual that we end up at four, even five rinks during a typical weekend in the winter season.

This naturally interrupts the kids’ down/screen time. It’s rare they get four, five hours of uninterrupted game time in front of some screen.

This works in my favour. 🙄

During the school week, they do use the laptop though, sometimes for homework, sometimes for other things like researching topics that interest them. The boy likes cars, the girl is currently interested in guinea pigs. 😊

And they do watch tv, as well. SpongeBob is a favorite after school, and lately, we’ve tuned into the British show For the Love of Dogs with Paul O’Grady (available on CBC here in Canada, at 4 pm EST during the week).

Such a wonderful show about rehoming dogs…

On weekends, my tween boy can’t wait to get on the Xbox. Which we allow, although we pull him away when it starts looking like he’s lost track of time.

“The dishwasher needs emptying”, we might say after an hour and a half of screen hockey.

Or, “did you remember to throw your laundry in?” we may remind him when it’s obvious he’s been screen racing cars for an hour.

🙂

He is a good boy. He does his chores, he gets good grades, he has a part time job and earns his own pocket money.

And he has a relatively early bedtime, especially during the week. My boy is not sleep deprived.

He has never been benched by any hockey coach during a game in all the years he’s played competitive sports. He is one of few on his team…and the coaches blame PlayStation/Xbox for their most recent issues.

Apparently, the lack of focus during games can easily be blamed on too much screen time…especially late into the nights.

Imagine, if your kid is tuned into video games for several hours and then has to go to bed immediately, he’ll have trouble falling asleep. It takes the brain time to relax, and this doesn’t happen in twenty minutes.

How are some of these kids getting enough quality sleep if they’re up till 10 pm, or later, playing video games? I can see it impacting their skill in sports, and can only imagine how it might impact them with their school studies.

Hopefully my kids understand our restrictions on some level. And if not, let’s hope some day in the not too distant future, the kids will register that it was the right thing to do for the greater good of their health, especially their mental health.

“Thanks for caring about my brain” they can say to me with some flowers and a bottle of wine. lol

#WishfulThinking

How are you managing screen time in your home? Is it working, or is there room for improvement? We need all the support we can find in today’s complicated electronic age.

#SolidarityParentingTeens

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5 thoughts on “You’re the only mom who doesn’t allow…

  1. We don’t stop our kids playing games – we never have done. I tend to think boys are VERY different with video games though – they obsess about single player games. My daughters very rarely play a game on their own. We do ban screen time for an hour before bed – and Miss 14 has begun to complain bitterly about it.

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  2. You are not the only moms but you already knew that! My girls don’t watch any TV during the week and get access to the iPad or laptop for homework related items only. On occasions they will look up something they are curious about or how to draw something. The younger two also use YouTube for yoga or workouts-while strictly supervised because that’s just sketchy. Remember too, mine don’t have their own devices. This isn’t a humble or not so humble brag, it’s just what happens when you have a reader, a workout fanatic and an artist obsessed with her new puppy.

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  3. Ugh, I wish we had done this. I find it is so hard to set a rule and then back pedal if it isn’t working, rather than just say no in the first place. Sigh.

    As you can probably guess, we do allow video games all the time and it’s very hard to restrict them. In fact I don’t usually admit to this because I am so embarrassed about it, but their limits (if you can call them that) are no more than 3 hours a day, and no more than an hour at a time without a break. But that’s just for pure video game time – they also get TV time on top of this, as long as we are all watching a family thing together. Screen time is BIG around here.

    Now that our oldest is in Grade 9 I have noticed his grades slipping, and I wonder if he is rushing to get things done so he can get to his video game time. I have flirted with the idea of going video-game-free during the week but as I said above, it’s so hard to go backwards. We will see. In the meantime – don’t be in any great rush to let that rule slip!

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    • I get it. I understand about backtracking. I guess what you could do is have a checklist that needs to be completed before they can turn on a screen (including tv)…I know some people who have wifi password protected and only after the chores and homework are done is the password released. I don’t know how practical this is….

      Good luck!

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